Before I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was aware that Breast Cancer Awareness Month was October. I was aware that Breast Cancer Awareness = Pink.
As a woman, I was aware it seemed pretty neat to see things like the Point State Park fountain (Pittsburgh, PA) flowing pink, and buildings awash with pink lighting. I liked the pink T-Shirts attached with events, and even went to a few events, got the shirt, and thought I was helping the cause somehow. I relished the "girl stuff". If I saw a "Support Breast Cancer Awareness" donation can, odds are I dropped some money in it, assuming I was doing my part and helping the cause without having any idea where my money was going.
I was aware that most sports teams held "pink events" where players and fans wore pink. I attended and participated in events thinking that somehow wearing a pink shirt to a sporting event was going to help cure breast cancer. I was not aware that awareness was only the first step, and that it takes more than awareness to find a cure for breast cancer. I'm neither anti-awareness, nor anti-fun ..... I just want to build on the month of awareness to move forward toward a cure for always...and for all cancers.
I was aware that it was important to catch breast cancer early. I assumed that people who died of breast cancer had not seen their doctor, performed self exams, or had mammograms. I was not aware that those diagnosed with breast cancer died even when the cancer was caught early.
I was aware events and slogans like "Save Second Base" and "Save the TaTa's" were popular and seemed to be for a good cause. Such games were all in good fun in the name of awareness, right? I assumed that saving breasts was the goal. I assumed if the breasts were saved, surely the lives were saved too. I understand sometimes it takes "catchy phrases" to get attention, but is there another cancer where we speak primarily of saving a body part as opposed to saving a life?
I was aware that mastectomies were often performed in response to breast cancer. I perceived a mastectomy was a last-ditch effort to eradicate breast cancer by removing the breast. I assumed that at "worst case", the breast was removed, and the breast cancer must then be gone as well.
Not many people have a literally lifelong friend. I have been blessed to have such a friend as our parents were friends when we were born. 18 years ago,my lifelong friend was diagnosed with breast cancer. She was young, and looked pretty healthy and happy to me considering the treatment. I recall remarking after she reached the 5-year mark after her first diagnosis how glad I was that everything was back to normal now and the scare was "over". She didn't correct me, but I do recall she was hesitant in her response.
My friend was my biggest supporter when I was diagnosed, and was the first person I told when I "knew" before I was officially diagnosed. Our stories are very similar, though more than a decade removed. I watched as my friend went through recurrence after recurrence. She always seemed to come through and go into remission once again. I admired her strength and faith. In her current progression, there will be no more remission, and I struggle to help her and her family as they prepare for what is to come. She is at peace. I am heart broken. My thoughts of years ago that it was "over" when she reached the 5-year mark haunt me,. She is not the first of my dear friends to reach the end of their options, but she is the dearest of my friends to reach this point.
I thought I was aware of what breast cancer meant, but clearly I was not. I thought I was contributing to making a difference in finding a cure and "preventing" breast cancer. Clearly, I was not. My hope is that moving forward, we can build off of the original "awareness" and work together to make a difference in the lives of those diagnosed with breast (and other) cancer. To truly find a cure requires research. Awareness is only the first step. We need to keep moving forward. We cannot be content with the status quo. I want to live. I want my friends to live. Please help me.